Having kids changes everything.

[Ikissedagirl]

That's what I'm thinking-we'll get to a point where it will feel right.  For right now we try to meet for lunch during the week when boog is at mdo, it's nice.

[nomorewirehangers]

we try to make time for each other in "non date" ways since we don't have a lot of money for sitters and it's rare we have someone to watch the kids...

for instance: I come home for lunch everyday to eat. If hubs is on nights he sets his alarm a bit early and wakes up to eat with me. We have our "how was your day" talk...and sometimes squeeze in some REAL alone time.  (though not so much here lately...seeing as how I'm a whale...)

[Mrs. B]

So many people in my life like to insist that J and I MUST have date nights.  Sure, when Ry gets a little older but for right now, not interested.

OMD!!!! they do us to but i always feel quilty b/c right now during tax season i hardly get to see him!

[Ikissedagirl]

So many people in my life like to insist that J and I MUST have date nights.  Sure, when Ry gets a little older but for right now, not interested.

OMD!!!! they do us to but i always feel quilty b/c right now during tax season i hardly get to see him!

Yeah, but the busy will slow down and all will be well.  We all go through periods where we're super busy but I really dislike that people like to think they know what's best for our relationship when they see so little of it.

[Mrs. B]

  but we are going to memphis sunday b/c i have macey gift cards to spend and mc would soooo not enjoy that 

[forrest]

babies/kids get a mother...husband loses his wife...

 

i have mace gift cards to spend and mc would soooo not enjoy that 

I dont think many people enjoy being maced and some people might be inclined to report you if you used them on kids...

[beantownstrutta]

How did your relationship with your s.o./spouse change once you started having kids? For the better? For the worse? More of a team now? The bipolar coaster? How so?

It made my soon to be XH decide he wanted to trade me in for a newer model. And he's been test driving the latest models for a while now, making a name for himself as a pathetic middle aged dude trying to relive his youth.

But, ehm, he's a great dad. He really is. I don't say anything about him to the kids, and we maintain a cordial relationship for them, but I have custody and I'm home with them while he is pretty much living it up as a single guy.

I'm a little bitter! 

[Mtlchick26]

Well I think you have a reason to be bitter! At least he's a good dad. My dad pulled the same thing on my mom, decided when I was 3 he no longer wanted to be married or have as kid, never paid a dime in child support and never bothered to see me...ever. I will never understand how some guys get off so easy and meantime the moms are the ones that are stuck raising the kid(s) by themselves.

[nomorewirehangers]

or in some cases how worthless mom's get off so easy and good guys and the awesome chics they marry get stuck with all the responsibilities   

[Mavi]

We didn't know each other for very long before we got pregnant/married (in that order) so I don't know if I can notice a change outside of the "madly in love"  stage to the "hey we're married" stage. That said, we annoy each other a lot, especially recently. I feel like he doesn't ever listen to me and he feels that I get mad at the most minor things. But even when we're mad, we still love each other and he's a FANTASTIC dad,  I really could not ask for anything better.

[Mtlchick26]

or in some cases how worthless mom's get off so easy and good guys and the awesome chics they marry get stuck with all the responsibilities   

YES, that too, I'm sorry I did not include that. How any parent, mother or father can simply walk away or not take responsibility for their kid(s) boggles my mind. It's not fair to that child. Thank goodness there are super cool step moms like you who are great role models!  Also there are some pretty cool step dad out there too...I don't want to forget them!