thanks GD . to us it means that when we do get the rare chance to have sex we are not going to have to fearfully practice withdrawal or other methods of lovemaking for fear of a surprise pregnancy. I don't have the option of being a SAHM ,if we had any more children then Brad would have to leave his studies to look after the kids. having him stay at home with another baby , leave school and me have to work and miss another child ? it would kill us
It was bad enough when Brad was laid off just after Trinni was born and then signed up to study. I was going to stay home with the kids and study myself and often resent that i am working , doing most of housework and failing my studies so i can pay all the houshold expenses and his study fees.
there is no guarantee of a fabulous job or great money once he finishes studying and although i could earn more money in my field of work , it often means split shifts with early starts and late finishes where i don't get to see the kids .
With trinni needing extra care for a number of years and Bella needing to travel for her new school we are going to have a lot to focus on looking after the three children we have .
I doubt we will be able to find time to have lots of all out sexathons , but at least if we have a quickie it will not be a , "oh crap , pull out" quickie.
with my history of problems with pills , we both agree that we don't want to go back down the path of messing with my hormones . Having my tubes tied would mean me missing work (and the main family income) and associated health risks . Although my family has a history of early menopause , we don't want to wait until then to be able to make love in a vanilla way .
OK , so i know there are alternatives and i am sure we have both enjoyed everything BUT ...but i miss being able to look my husband in the eye when he climaxes and not risk being shot in the eye .